The girl of adjacent home is little beautiful, the university graduates, go an unit to apply for a job, go cheerfully, come back howlingly however. My as it happens is in charge of a student applying for the directive job of obtain employment in the school. Small beautiful it is each case, I ask her the reason, she is crying to say, check an uncle, that person is not a person, it is to wrapping around the Lothario of person skin. When her mood stability comes down, she told me its the whole story.

Original, small beautiful when interview begins, modest the earth's surface is white, say oneself " immature still " . A common saying, was captured foolishly by the other side however, ground of have ulterior motives says, immature never mind, it doesn't matter is alarming! Small at the beginning beautiful do not care about. This person says more licentious more later, asked about till finally small beautiful " 3 surround " . Listen this character, small beautiful with respect to fight back the other side a clapperclaw, interview did not end, crying to run spot of invite applications for a job.

I sympathize with of course small beautiful experience, the girl with so outstanding school work, the key that has not entered to apply for a job researchs link, lost a chance for nothing. Nevertheless, ponder over whole process, I feel small beautiful the processing to this problem is a bit insufficient and sober, sensible.

I ask small beautiful: "Don't you have similar psychology to prepare at ordinary times? Does the meeting in considering course of to apply for a job encounter similar case? How should answer? Had thought? " small beautiful shake shake one's head, she says she just is wanting how to be major and skill respect reveal him outstandingly.

Cast small beautiful met Lothario not to talk. The female should do good psychology to prepare really in process of to apply for a job. Meet similar " sexual topic " and " the gender is alluded " it is constant some thing. The key is how to be answered, I tell small beautiful should consider from the following respects.

The first, want intentional manage to prepare. Should think of this problem beforehand, consideration the other side may from " sexual topic " what respect goes out draw on him create difficulties for sb, preliminary the plan that has considered all sorts of answering; Still can ask for advice " a n experienced person " , consulting them is how to face this kind of awkwardness; Additional, in mentally to " quality " establish reason manner, do not listen to a person to be mentioned before oneself " quality " , consider as the affront to oneself, what does addresser say, can demonstrate its individual quality only, cannot form is didymous and obedient person the harm of materiality. Meet any conditions, face calmly, this is very important.

The 2nd, give opposite party in order to allude. Allusive the other side, everybody is equal person. For instance, can pretend to ask opposite party innocently, little sister or the daughter's circumstance, invite opposite party can the tie that think better of realizes to favor, human nature, human relations waits nature and social identity a moment and regulation. Need not break opportunity ground to call opposite party " eldest brother " or " uncle " , create close situation, arouse the other side to be opposite puny protective consciousness. Believe to there always is good one side in human nature, just be the key that how finds open. The method had better be reservation, euphemistic, alleged " 39 batches of hoisting jack " , " borrow force to make force " . Resemble small beautiful such justice decline is severe, can show off is temporarily fast, also can lose a chance at the same time.
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